PC the game gets stuck on found server when i try to join my friends server but not public servers

[Plinktra]

Steam or GOG

Steam

Single Player/Multiplayer

Multi

Operating System

Windows 10

Terraria Version

1.4.4.9

Controls Used

Keyboard/Mouse

i tried multiple methods including but not limited to reinstalling the game and other stuff i found on here

 

[punchready]

Are you joining via steam or is your friend hosting directly? Was the port forwarded correctly, did your friend actually start the server?

 

[Plinktra]

Are you joining via steam or is your friend hosting directly? Was the port forwarded correctly, did your friend actually start the server?

we tried both